Returning to work

Hi all, I’m just trying to get an idea of how long anyone was off work following ectopic rupture and emergency surgery. My physical recovery seemed completed around 7/8 weeks after op and infection but I’m still recovering emotionally, it has been the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced mentally and emotionally. My long-term partner left me a few days after surgery blaming me for getting pregnant which was heart wrenching shock on top of this so I think that may have made things much more difficult. But can anyone enlighten me on their experience in terms of recovery to the point of being able to return to work?

Some days I’m ok then bam out of the blue a wave comes over me thinking about what happened xx any help appreciated xx

I’m sorry that you’re going through so much on top of the ectopic and surgery. Wow! I just can’t believe how someone could blame you for something like that…

Everyone’s recovery and circumstances are different so I wouldn’t worry about comparing your needs to anyone else. Take the time you need and get some help for what you’re going through. Can your gp refer you to a therapist to help you?

Dear Gabriel123,

You have been through so much in a short period of time. Surgery is an immense ordeal for the body to go through. In general, after about six weeks you should be able to return to most jobs from a physical point of view, so it is still early for you. The EPT suggests that it would be sensible to have a phased approach, gently building up to the usual extent of activity. We would suggest avoiding a rapid return to strenuous activities as it is important to build up strength after recovery.

A few options may be available depending on the role: might there be an opportunity to work reduced hours, increasing them slowly over a few weeks? Perhaps there are certain tasks that you could take on which may entail a change from your usual role or a series of reduced tasks initially? I am not sure whether this is appropriate in your circumstances, but is there anything that you could action from home (which may be different from your usual role but still be of use)?

You don’t need to be strong all on your own. People are already feeling the mental strains of life with COVID, lockdown, not to mention having suffered an ectopic pregnancy. Talking therapies can be very helpful in recovery from ectopic pregnancy, especially as the physical recovery often occurs first. You can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help, and this can include referrals for “talking therapies” or counselling. We have information on our website about finding counselling services. The charity, Mind, may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/

No matter what, we are here for you whenever you need. Please know you are not alone and take all the time you need to look after yourself and recover. We are here for you whenever you want to talk.

With good wishes,

Michele

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Thank you so much. I have a few days go by where I feel ready and almost normal so I start to gear up … then a day will just hit me like a train and it all floods in crippling me. I feel like staying off work any longer will be asking too much from gp I’m not sure, but I know I’m not ready yet and like you say phasing in may help. Thank you for your replies and sending you all lots of love too, this is a circumstance I’d never have even imagined myself in before December and I have immense compassion for anyone experiencing this.