I just wanted to share our story with you all. I’ve never posted on here before but after my ectopic pregnancy in oct 16, I read a lot of posts and gained strength from reading about people who conceived after ectopic pregnancies. I just wanted to give something back to those who may have recently suffered an ectopic pregnancy and are worried about what this might mean for their future fertility.
I had surgery to remove my right fallooian tube and with it, my precious second pregnancy on 27/10/16. This would be our second child and a very much loved and wanted child. We had a straightforward first pregnancy and so naturally, as soon as we knew we were expecting again, we made plans for our second child. Our hopes and dreams were quickly dashed when we were told that the pregnancy was in fact an ectopic pregnancy and my right fallopian tube was removed. We were absolutely heartbroken. I was so worried about what this meant for my fertility. We knew that we definitely wanted another child and genuinely as selfish as this sounds because I already had one beautiful little boy, I knew my life wouldn’t be complete without having another. We talked about and fretted over what this meant for our fertility whilst also coming to terms with the fact that we had lost the child that we had made plans for. We were approaching 8 weeks pregnant when our tiny angel was taken along with our hopes and dreams.
My husband told me that we could try again and there would be other children and I remember lying in bed sobbing my heart out that I didn’t want another child, I wanted that one. The 27/10/16 was the day of my surgery, I bled very heavily for around 10 days after surgery. I was told that this wasn’t a “proper period”. A few weeks later, I hadn’t had my first period and was starting to worry about where it was. I took a pregnancy test to rule it out and it was positive. The doctors told me that it was likely the hormones left over from the ectopic pregnancy but I felt hopeful otherwise. In addition to feeling hopeful… my overwhelming emotion was being terrified!! I convinced myself that if this was a new pregnancy, it too would be ectopic. The worry was horrendous!
On 31/07/17 I gave birth to my daughter Evelynne. She is beautiful and our little miracle. It is thought that we conceived around 3 weeks after surgery to remove the ectopic pregnancy. I never post on forums or anything but I wanted you to know that hope is not lost. Yes… any subsequent pregnancy is a blessing but it won’t replace the little person who you hoped you were having. The cruel thing about miscarriages/ ectopic pregnancies is that you loose a little person that you thought you were going to have. You made plans for him/her and you will never know if it would have been a boy or girl or who they may have turned out to be. It’s heartbreaking and I totally get it! Evelynne is here and she is just beautiful but my mind still goes back to our now “middle child” who we will never know and our children will never know.
I guess after all my warbling on my message is this… there’s still so much hope after an ectopic! Hope for your fertility! Hope for your future! It’s such a bad place to be when it happens to you but rest assured, your fertility is much less affected than you think it is!
It took me 18 months to conceive my first child and I had two Fallopian tubes back then. It took me around 3 or 4 weeks to conceive after surgery to remove my right fallopain tube!!
Sending all my love and well wishes! Xxx
