Hi I just wondered if anyone else has experienced pain during period in the side where tube was removed? I’m on my 4th period after operation in the summer and I find that the pain is a heavy feeling and hurts to pee, like a tight squeeze feeling. It goes shortly after period ends. I’ve also noticed a change in cycle and ovulate 2 days earlier than I used to, it’s quite nerve wracking, and like other posts I’m desperate to try again and have been to since late August. Last month I felt sure I was pregnant as I had painful boobs and other symptoms and then cried for two days when my period came. My brother just had a little girl and I was too afraid to see her for weeks but I got the courage and didn’t want to let her go! I do feel lonely with these feelings of loss, my boyfriend was upset but has coped well, he already has a child, and this was my first pregnancy. I try to hide from crying all the time as he likes to keep positive it’s difficult to put feelings into words when you have a bad day. If anyone has anything they can advise for this difficult journey I would be very grateful xxxx
Hi Hayley1,
I’m so sorry that you have experienced this ectopic pregnancy and loss. It truly is such a frightening ordeal, and is both an emotional and physical trauma. Please know that there is no set recovery time or pathway. Each of us is so very different, and it’s important to give ourselves time and space to heal.
It’s very normal to have a range of emotions. It is hard to see others with babies, as we grieve for what might have been for us. That does not make us bad people. Our partners may grieve very differently from us and it’s important to keep the communication open. For me, I had a very hard time expressing to friends and family what I was feeling, they all wanted to look at the positive. I found that journalling helped me sort out my thoughts on paper, and in time, I was able to share these thoughts more easily with others.
Many women report experiencing pain following an ectopic pregnancy. The pain you are feeling could be due to your body healing or as a result of adhesions or scar tissue which forms as part of the recovery process. It could also be because your menstrual cycle is restarting or because of ovulation pains as many women feel ovulation pains when they did not before. It might also be as a result of heightened awareness after your ordeal. Periods can change after having an ectopic pregnancy and your cycle can be longer or shorter than before. Doctors consider periods of up to 42 days to be within normal parameters.
To assist, you could keep a pain and period diary too - when you experience the pain and where, its intensity and anything that helps like rest or pain relief, and noting when your period starts. You can also speak to your doctors sooner, taking these notes with you a GP appointment and the details will help your doctors best manage your symptoms.
We are here for you as you heal, and these boards are a safe space for your thoughts or even just to vent.
With warm wishes,
Michele
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