Dear Murphy,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss,
Following an ectopic pregnancy, it is not unusual to feel pain and discomfort in the lower abdomen. Awareness of such feelings can also be heightened as a result of the experience of pregnancy loss and because of the frightening and distressing experience you had to go through. There are a number of reasons why you may be aware of the aches in your abdominal area:
It could be that your normal cycle is trying to resume and the pain you are experiencing may be due to your body preparing to ovulate, or your period might be about to arrive
It could be that your awareness of your menstrual cycle and your ovulation have been heightened. Many women report that they are aware of ovulation pain after an ectopic, when they never experienced it before
It might simply be down to heightened perception and awareness because of the experience you have been through of your previous ectopic pregnancy
The wait before trying to conceive also allows time for an inflammation in the tubes to settle. Sadly we cannot prevent ectopic pregnancy but 90% of women go on to have a successful pregnancy following ectopic pregnancy.
It is normal to feel anxious about the future. We experience a mix of emotions from wanting to try again to being petrified of what may lie ahead. We never forget, but we can learn to accept what happened. It is a slow process that might be weeks or months ahead. In time, we can get to a place where we feel comfortable trying again. When this is, is individual for each person. There is no timeframe for recovery, take each day as it comes. Importantly early scans avail. As soon as you know you are pregnant, contact your local EPU to inform them and book in for an early scan at around six weeks. Remind them of your previous ectopic pregnancy. This self refer route is the best route in our view. Hopefully you will have some comfort to know you are under the radar of medical professionals right away.
Sending much love,
Karen x
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