Hi I’m new on here, used this site 13 years ago after my ectopic and remember it keeping it sane. I was 41 in December and been ttc for a year, my partner is 7 years younger than me and we have no children of our own, we married in October, that was fun in the middle of a pandemic. I have a 21 year old, then 3 more after my ectopic aged 12, 11 and 7. Came off the pill a year ago, periods were very short for a while and really painful now are anything from 21 to 28 days, pretty sure I don’t ovulate every month as we have been testing, I don’t know if you do with one tube 
just feeling a bit fed up at the moment, I’m 10dpo today and started spotting, just think now because of my age it’s never going to happen for us. I don’t want to moan though I am very lucky to have 4 children I just think when you try for a while you start to feel slightly insane at testing time 
Dear Watman79,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
I very much understand that strong desire to conceive. I appreciate how frustrating it can be if it isn’t happening as quickly as we would like. Conceiving successfully can take time and can take some couples more than a year or so.
While generally it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. In addition. having regular sex means having sex every 2/3 days throughout the month. Guidance from the UK’s National Institute of Health and Clinical Excellence advises that having sex around the time when the woman ovulates causes stress and is not recommended. We here at the EPT suggest having intercourse 2/3 times between days 10-20 of their cycle when trying to conceive. We also have information on our website on trying to conceive here:
https://ectopic.org.uk/patients/trying-to-conceive/
Importantly, help is available if conceiving naturally has not yet been successful after some time trying - and the EPT advises that women under 35 should seek medical advice following 12 months trying to conceive and those over 35 should seek advice after 6 months. As you have been trying for a year, I would advise speaking to your GP who can advise you further.
Regarding having one tube, generally, when a person has only one fallopian tube and both ovaries, they are still able to get pregnant from an egg at the opposite ovary as an egg from one ovary can travel down the tube on the other side. The fallopian tubes are not attached to the ovaries and, at the point of ovulation, some very delicate structures called the fimbriae begin to move gently creating a slight vacuum to suck the egg toward the end of the tube it is nearest to (like lots of little fingers waving and drawing the egg towards it). So, if you have only one tube then there is only one set of receptors working and one set of fimbriae creating a vacuum and so the egg is much more likely to find its way to that tube, whichever ovary it is produced from. Conservative estimates suggest that an egg produced on the tubeless side manages to descend the remaining tube around 15 to 20% of the time.
I hope this helps,
Sending much love,
Karen x
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Hi Karen, thank you for the advice, and the information about one tube is actually fascinating I’ve always wondered. I don’t think hospitals sometimes explain very well. afterwards I was sort of just sent home. I have had a blood test done and a smear but nothing untoward come up. Think I’m just being impatient, we have an app and both take supplements. I think it’s just at my age it feels like you are running out of time, that dreaded body clock.