I had a ectopic pregnancy. I’ve been bleeding for 5 weeks and I went to docs 2 days ago and they done a test which said I was pregnant I was totally shocked because I’ve been told I can’t have kids. Then I was sent home and told to go back in a week obviously with the bleeding but took ill that night and got took to hospital and they done tests and scans yesterday morning which they found my baby was in the tube. So they had to operate quick and take my tube and ovary away I am totally heartbroken as all I’ve ever wanted was a baby and now I’m left without any after care just discharged home after the pain eases off
Hi Lauren1995,
It’s heartbreaking to hear that you have suffered an ectopic pregnancy and loss. You have been through both a physical and emotional trauma, and these are still very early days. It’s extremely important to look after yourself right now.
Please be patient with yourself and give yourself the time to heal. Take all the time you need. There is no set time for which to move through these emotions, and every woman and couple go through at their own pace. As well, If you think it may help, we can certainly arrange to speak to you about what you have been through and be a shoulder to lean on. My colleagues and I have also experienced ectopic pregnancy and understand how heartbreaking it is. You can ask any questions or simply tell us about the horrible time you have been through. You can also look at counseling services and emotional recovery support on our website under Patients/Emotional recovery.
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis (you pay what you can afford) or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too:
http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
These boards are a safe space for you and are here whenever and as long as you need.
With good wishes,
Michele
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