I had an emergency operation September 29th of last year. Having only 2 days to process the pregnancy positive test. To being rushed onto the hospital bed, with internal bleeding, and the removal of my left fallopian tube.
Since then every period I get I’m very emotional, like it’s a reminding of everything that happened. All the flashbacks and memories coming rushing at once.
This is my first time on this forum, and I’d love to hear other people’s advice on how to get through it.
I’m sorry you experienced this. It sounds like what you went through was very shocking and traumatic. In two days of knowing you were pregnant to having emergency surgery that’s a lot.
I had an ectopic pregnancy diagnosed at 8 weeks in december, had the mxt injection and then I bled, had intermittent pain for 10 weeks…It only ended in March. I had a period recently and the cramping remind me of the severe contractions of the ectopic pain I had. So what you are experiencing know others are too.
It’s very hard, it’s something we carry, you will get there.
Dear Megan,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss,
Experiencing an ectopic pregnancy can be very traumatic. It can take up to 3 months to begin to process traumatic events such as these, as they are such complex feelings.
Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
I struggled with emotions for 2years before contacting the Trust. I found comfort in reading others posts. I didn’t feel so alone in how I was feeling. I was also advised to try counselling, which I did. Following this, I understood that although I would never forget my pregnancy or baby, I learnt to accept what had happened and crucially understand that it wasn’t my fault.
As you have had so much to process in a very small timeframe - the ordeal of diagnosis, surgical treatment, losing a pregnancy and concerns about the future. Any one of these is hard to contend with and putting it all together is immense. After a frightening ordeal like ectopic pregnancy, some women find that they suffer from Post Traumatic Stress and symptoms can include anxiety, flashbacks, and not being able to focus on everyday things like work, There are a number of avenues that you could look into to get the help that you need.
We at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there’s no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We’ll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for “talking therapies” or counselling. Including referral for specialist PTSD therapy.
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
Above all be kind to yourself. We will be here for you for as long as you need,
Sending much love,
Karen x
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Hi Megan
I know exactly how you feel. I found out I was having an ectopic only 4 days after finding out I was pregnant. I was 7weeks +2 . I got rushed into theatre pretty quickly due to the blood loss. I get the Same sick feeling everytime my period arrives, I get all the flashbacks every month when my period comes, I become an emotional mess for a week every month 
Am glad I’m not the only one who feels the same.
Xx