Being vile to my husband

Hi, I recently was treated with methotrexate and am still having bloods as hcg 322 still, but going in right direction. I have been so vile to my husband this morning of all days, asked for my present back I got him as was less money than the one he got me. I have totally ruined Xmas, managed to hold it together for my 2 boys it my husband is so angry with me. Can barely look at me. I seriously cannot believe how irrational I have been. I’m hoping it’s my hormones but am worried it’s just been being vile.

Explain you’re hormonal, regretful, embarrassed. It can make you feel irrational. I thought I was going bonkers for a few days as nothing seemed to matter. You probably took it out on him bc he’s safe. You won’t be the last person to have a xmas argument. Salvage it with an apology. If he’s not talking maybe send a text. All will be well okay X

Yasdnil,

Don’t beat yourself over this. Just tell him, how sorry you are now! You are going through a very difficult time (probably he is as well), Christmas can be stressful even without the added hormones and problems. I’m sure he was there to support you and saw/know what you’re going through. You just gotta talk it through, how are you feeling and what to ask the dr, what can you do to help the process etc.

Good luck x

Dear Yasdnil,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,

When we experience ectopic pregnancy, we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it’s treatment reduction in fertility concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal. Adding this to trying to keep up with the demands of Christmas, it is no wonder you are struggling and have been a little short tempered.

If you feel able, sit down with your husband and explain that your are experiencing waves of emotions at the moment. Perhaps show him some posts from this site so he can try to realise and help him understand what you are feeling.

Be kind to yourself, allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally,

Sending much love,

Karen x


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