25 and tube removed :(

I’m not really sure what to say, infact I don’t really know how to feel. Its been a week exactly today since I had 45 minutes of crazy pain, then finding out I was pregnant and convincing myself the pains weren’t THAT bad and maybe I was just being a baby and infact they were implantation cramps.

My feelings this time last week are very different to those I’m feeling today. Monday the pains came back, I was admitted to hospital and Tuesday rushed to theatre, I had severe internal bleeding and then my ectopic and right tube removed. I left hospital late yesterday, with no information about where to go from here. My surgeon simply said “you’ll have a period and then you can try again for another baby” as if it is just that simple and easy and “on to the next” attitude which I feel terrible for typing now as she actually did save my life. I’m just not really sure how to feel about it, everything’s happened so fast it doesn’t feel real. I’m 25 years old and in the space of a few hours I’ve lost a baby and Fallopian tube-fantastic.

Hi Minnie25,

I’m so sorry that you’ve suffered an ectopic pregnancy and loss. It can leave us with many questions and I’ll do my best to help.

Recovery from an ectopic pregnancy can take some time and is very individual. As much as I wish I could give you more certainty, as we are so unique, I am afraid there isn’t a timeframe as such. It’s important to remember that there is nothing you could have done to prevent the ectopic pregnancy. What I can say is that as the days and weeks pass, you will begin to feel more like yourself again and although the journey may be a bit of a shaky one - some days will be ok, some not so ok - please do be kind to yourself and allow yourself all the time and space that you need to heal.

On your fertility, the egg from tubeless side can be picked up by other Fallopian tube, and that means that fertility is not halved with having a Fallopian tube removed. Conservative estimates suggest that an egg produced on the tubeless side manages to descend the remaining tube around 15 to 20% of the time. This means that rather than your fertility being halved it has been affected by around 30% or, looking at it another way, it means we have around a 70% opportunity of conception with each menstrual (period) cycle.

There is an increased chance of an EP following abdominal surgery. In the UK, the repeat occurrence of an EP is about 10 percent chance, but looking at it another way, there is a 90 percent chance of embryo being in the right place. Importantly, help available to you with by booking an early scan around six weeks gestation. You can book into the EPU when you are next pregnant.

We understand how nerve wracking this all can be. We are here for you for emotion support too, and these Boards are a safe space for you. We here for as long as you need.

With good wishes,

Michele


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Dear Michele,

I’ve just read this and are you able to provide bit more info on how the risk of another eps increases. Is it due to the surgery itself?

Thanks in advance hayley

Hi

I was told when I fall preg again to contact Maternity ward straight away & they’ll arrange a urgent scan for 2weeks after possitive test to locate where pregnancy is.

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