Why can’t I conceive again???

Preparing For Your Next Pregnancy
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I had an ectopic pregnancy this time last year.

I had my left tube removed.

Each month we try, each month we fail to conceive. Every month I convince myself I’m pregnant with symptoms, sore breasts, feeling nauseous, tight bowel movements, cramping and then the day before my period is due I get the telling sign of a back ache and my period is here.

I’m nearly 35, my partner is nearly 45. So she isn’t on our side. Is there anything I can try to speed up this process? We really want to start a family of our own. We’ve tried everything we’ve read. Has any tried conceive plus? When can we ask for professional help?

Feeling so worthless and frustrated that I can’t do what women should be able too.

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Dear F19NA,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,

I very much understand that strong desire to conceive. I appreciate how frustrating it can be if it isn’t happening as quickly as we would like. Conceiving successfully can take time and can take some couples more than a year or so.

While generally it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. It may be comforting to know that 65% of women are successfully pregnant within 18 months of experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and some studies suggest this rises to around 85% after two years.

In addition. having regular sex means having sex every 2/3 days throughout the month. Guidance from the UK’s National Institute of Health and Clinical Excellence advises that having sex around the time when the woman ovulates causes stress and is not recommended. We here at the EPT suggest having intercourse 2/3 times between days 10-20 of their cycle when trying to conceive. We also have information on our website on trying to conceive here: https://ectopic.org.uk/physical-recover … eive-again

Importantly, help is available if conceiving naturally has not yet been successful after some time trying - and the EPT advises that women under 35 should seek medical advice following 12 months trying to conceive and those over 35 should seek advice after 6 months.

Sending much love,

Karen x

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