Hi there
I thought I was ok with the situation I’ve been dealt but I think I may need some support.
I had no idea I was pregnant, I was on contraceptive pill and was having regular and normal periods.
Other than migraines a few weeks before (GP said nothing to worry about) I had no idea I was pregnant.
Friday 21st Feb I called an ambulance as I was unable to stand or move. They took me to A&E where after blood tests were done realised I was pregnant. My blood pressure was 70/40 and I kept fainting. They scanned me and realised I had internal bleeding and was going into toxic shock / query sepsis. I was rushed to theatre for emergency surgery where they removed my left fallopian tube.
I already have two children and another was never on the cards (hence the contraception).
I thought I was ok about it all but I appear to be obsessing and googling info and photos of ectopic pregnancies. Clearly I’m not ok at the moment and would really appreciate people to talk to
Thank you
Dear emski,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss.
Whether a planned pregnancy or not, ectopic pregnancy is quite an ordeal. We are suddenly faced with knowing we are pregnant, being diagnosed with a potentially life threatening emergency, having treatment and recovering from that treatment and losing a baby - It’s a lot.
You are still in the early stages of recovery (and this includes physical and emotional recovery), so whatever you are feeling right now, its ok.
You may feel shocked by being told you were pregnant as you were taking contraception and overwhelmed by the sudden urgency of it all, especially as you have 2 children and that is completely understandable.
Some people find that journaling their experiences can help them make sense of it all. We are here too.
These boards are a safe space to share feelings and emotions, ask questions or even rant. We also have email support and telephone call back if you want more private support (details below). We shall simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
For now, be kind to yourself and allow time to recover both physically and emotionally.
Best wishes,
Karen x
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Hi Emski, I hope you are feeling better. I’m replying because I was in a very similar situation and I didn’t want to read and run. I have two children and had an ectopic pregnancy that was unplanned and unknown until crisis point. I also had emergency surgery and an extremely close call.
This happened to me almost a year ago and it has gotten much better with time. I think about it all a lot less, though I sometimes look at this message board. Hoping you are moving in the right direction.
Hi Emski,
I hope that you are feeling better?
I am in a similar situation myself.
I have had the mirena coil for a number of years, replaced when due.
I have been unwell for weeks, GP visits, hospital visits. When asked could you be pregnant I say I have the coil, so no one has checked. I have done 2 tests myself - negative.
Last Saturday I tested again as I had felt very emotional and it was positive! Shocked, surprised but both myself and partner happy and excited. I have 2 boys, 17 and 11, I’m 38. My partner has 5 girls. Having a baby was not in our future plans, we thought maybe we have enough between us. However, life is full of surprises and here we were, expecting our own baby.
Around 20 minutes later I felt as if I needed to go to the toilet. I stood up, took a few steps and felt a little dizzy. I had ringing in my ears and fainted, came round in a pool of sweat. I felt as if I couldn’t lift my head off the floor, slight discomfort in my stomach.
My partner managed to get me up and home as we were at his work at the time.
He phoned 111 as I kept fainting, next thing I remember is paramedics being in my bedroom trying to cannulate me.
My blood pressure was extremely low, heart racing, shoulder pain. I was blue lighted to resus, a litre of blood in my abdomen from internal bleeding, blood transfusions and taken straight to theatre.
I know I only knew that I was pregnant for those few short minutes but now knowing that those weeks of struggling being unwell previously were due to our little surprise, suddenly made them feel so worth it, and then to be gone, left with nothing but emptiness.
I feel like I want to scream, for the last 2 days I can’t stop the tears. Yet no one understands x