I’m 2 months post surgery and so unhappy with my keyhole surgery scars. The right side, where 8 week baby and tube was removed, is so large and really gets me down. A constant reminder of what I’ve been through. It’s so devastating and a struggle to move forward. I try to keep positive, but some days are so hard!
Dear chloe,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss,
I am also sorry to hear that the scars and I understand how distressing they are for you, acting as a reminder of everything you have been through. It is normal for scar tissue to take a few months to settle down and hopefully you will start to notice this difference over the next few months.
I have added more information here for you
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/scars/friends
It is still early days following your ectopic pregnancy and and for some it can be very traumatic. It can take up to 3months to begin to process traumatic events such as these, so please be kind to yourself and allow time to grieve and heal both physically and emotionally.
If your down days start to outweigh the good, we at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there’s no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We’ll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
Sending much love,
Karen x
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