Recent surgery and recovery

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I went for a routine scan on Friday, I was 7 weeks with my second pregnancy (lost my first to miscarriage in December) where I was diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy.

I had some light spotting but no pain, they admitted me then and there and due to my hormone level being 5800 they had to operate. They removed my right tube on Saturday.

I don’t know how I feel, I’m completely overwhelmed, crying, staring into space, normal, laughing, hurting. The thought of seeing people makes me want to cry. I just feel a mess. I just want to fast forward 3 months to a better place.

Don’t know what I expect or why I’m writing this post but it might help…

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There’s no short cut through the storm but you WILL get to dry land soon. Netflix, patience with yourself, good food and nutrition, congratulating yourself for brushing your hair… all stepping stones on the journey.

Hang in there X

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Thank you for your kind words they mean a lot. X

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Dear Lulamcgoo12,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and losses. To experience one loss is difficult, to deal with multiple losses is heartbreaking and my heart truly goes out to you.

When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it’s treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.

Experiencing an ectopic pregnancy is a huge ordeal and you are in the early stages of recovery. Your body needs time to heal from your surgery which is in itself a gruelling task.

You should take it very easily for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body’s signals and pain and feeling tired are your body’s signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.

We will be here for you to ask questions or just vent. I personally found that reading other people’s posts made me feel less alone by realising my feelings were in fact, normal. Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.

Sending much love and warm hugs,

Karen x

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Hello,

I know exactly what you are going through. I found out I was pregnant on a Sunday and the following Sunday I’m being rushed into emergency surgery. My tube had ruptured and I was hemorrhaging, fortunately I was at work which happened to be in the emergency room. It was a horrible experience recovering from this, I feel I am still recovering. This was just feb 24th. Like you I lost my right tube and I am trying to figure out how to cope. I went into work whole and came out missing a part of me. When I was finally able to get out of bed I started painting, that’s my way of expressing myself. Is there something you really like to do where you can project your feelings to help let some of it out and begin healing?

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Thank you. I’m sorry you’ve been through that.

I’ve been doing some colouring & watching old box sets that require zero thinking.

My plan is to start doing daily walks & arrange some counselling.

I think it only now, a week on, sunk in. I’m fighting those horrid “what if it happens again” thoughts but I’m hoping some counselling will help.

Thank you for reply I really appreciate it xx