Looking for some hope

Hi :slight_smile:

I had an ectopic pregnancy (first ever pregnancy) 10 years ago and had my left tube removed.

Fast forward 10 years. I got married (in the middle of this pandemic) and now we are trying.

I am not expecting a positive test anytime soon. I know it takes a lot of trying since I have only one tube.

But I am so very nervous. I feel so out of tune with my body. When I have nausea and tender breast after ovulation I think I’m pregnant but that follows a negative test.

I feel like I have waited too long since the ectopic.

But I am 31 years old so I have not missed my window.

I am just feeling a bit lost and looking for advice on how to improve my chances.

I don’t smoke, drink, take caffeine, I eat fairly health and try to exercise. My BMI is 28 and I am hoping to improve on this as well.

How long should I try before seeking help?

Any advice or any experience you have will be greatly appreciated.

xx

Dear teshani,

Congratulations on your wedding and we’ll done in organising it through all of this.

Making the decision to begin trying to conceive is an emotional rollercoaster compounded by our sad loss, however the chances of a further ectopic after a first in UK is 10%. So that’s 90% chance of the embryo being in right place next time.

You maybe interested to know that generally, when a person has only one fallopian tube and both ovaries, they are still able to get pregnant from an egg at the opposite ovary as an egg from one ovary can travel down the tube on the other side. The fallopian tubes are not attached to the ovaries and, at the point of ovulation, some very delicate structures called the fimbriae begin to move gently creating a slight vacuum to suck the egg toward the end of the tube it is nearest to (like lots of little fingers waving and drawing the egg towards it). So, if you have only one tube then there is only one set of receptors working and one set of fimbriae creating a vacuum and so the egg is much more likely to find its way to that tube, whichever ovary it is produced from. Conservative estimates suggest that an egg produced on the tubeless side manages to descend the remaining tube around 15 to 20% of the time.

While generally it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. It may be comforting to know that 65% of women are successfully pregnant within 18 months of experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and some studies suggest this rises to around 85% after two years.

In addition. having regular sex means having sex every 2/3 days throughout the month. Guidance from the UK’s National Institute of Health and Clinical Excellence advises that having sex around the time when the woman ovulates causes stress and is not recommended. We here at the EPT suggest having intercourse 2/3 times between days 10-20 of their cycle when trying to conceive.

Importantly, help is available if conceiving naturally has not yet been successful after some time trying - and the EPT advises that women under 35 should seek medical advice following 12 months trying to conceive and those over 35 should seek advice after 6 months.

We have more information on trying to conceive here-

https://ectopic.org.uk/patients/trying-to-conceive/

It is also important to book in an early scan with any subsequent pregnancies. As soon as you know you are pregnant, contact your local EPU to inform them and book in for an early scan at around six weeks. Remind them of your previous ectopic pregnancy. This self refer route is the best route in our view. If you are unable to self refer, we advise speaking to your GP who will do this for you. Hopefully you will have some comfort to know you are under the radar of medical professionals right away.

Sending much love,

Karen x

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