Hi
Does anyone have any coping / relaxing techniques to try and stop stressing whilst trying to conceive? I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy this year and been ttc 4 months and nothing happening. I was trying ovulation strips / apps / thermometers to check temperature but felt this was making me more stressed. Aargh it’s so difficult not to stress . People say don’t worry but it’s hard not to.
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I’ve been trying for 3 months. I do acupuncture/cupping I don’t know if it’s helping but I have the best sleeps after it so at least that’s one thing. Soon after the ectopic I did kinesiology- it wasn’t for me but I have friends that swear by it for stress/grief. My yogi friend has also tried to get me into meditation, I’m actually going to a Yoga fertility retreat today- it’s based around fertility massage. My husband says I throw money at anything but I’ll let you know how I get on! Try anything once you know!
I have family visiting until January so we are putting trying on hold- it’s great! I feel so relaxed! I feel like my body needed this break?! Easier said than done I know.
Fertility massage seems like it could be helpful. I’m in Perth but my lady trained in the UK so if u that direction might be of interest. http://www.edwinataylor.com.au/fertility-massage-2/
Dear 1990 girl,
I very much understand that strong desire to conceive. I appreciate how frustrating it can be if it isn’t happening as quickly as we would like. Conceiving successfully can take time and can take some couples more than a year or so. The amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. It may be comforting to know that 65% of women are successfully pregnant within 18 months of experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and some studies suggest this rises to around 85% after two years.
I wish I could give more precise information, but as I do not have access to your and your partner’s medical records, it is difficult for me to provide specific details. Generally, we and many healthcare professionals advise keeping a healthy balanced diet, maintaining a healthy weight and abstaining from alcohol and smoking.
Importantly, help is available if conceiving naturally has not yet been successful after some time trying - and the EPT advises that women under 35 should seek medical advice following 12 months trying to conceive and those over 35 should seek advice after 6 months.
In addition. having regular sex means having sex every 2/3 days throughout the month. Guidance from the UK’s National Institute of Health and Clinical Excellence advises that having sex around the time when the woman ovulates causes stress and is not recommended. We here at the EPT suggest having intercourse 2/3 times between days 10-20 of their cycle when trying to conceive.
Making the decision to begin trying to conceive is an emotional rollercoaster compounded by our sad loss. Again, you are not alone. We here emotional support whenever you need us. There is a specific TTC board you can look at too whenever feel ready.
Sending much love,
Karen x
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