Hi all,
We were TTC for 11 months, although did not know about pregnancy as I have had my period. On 10/12 (cd10) went to A&E as I was bleeding and had bad dull cramps on right side, also had nervy shoulder pain the day before. A&E did wee test, which came back negative, and Dr said it is just a silly period. The pain gone away by the night, but I still had brown discharge every day. On 13/12 I thought this is not right so did a morning PT, which came back quite clearly positive. Not something I wanted to see, not in these circumstances. I knew this is not good. In hospital, HCG 409, scan shows “doughnut” in right tube, but nothing in womb. Laparoscopy, but I asked to keep my tube if it isn’t raptured. Dr said it most likely has raptured on 10/12 and that’s why it didn’t hurt anymore. Well, it wasn’t! They only flushed the blood out and took some photos (not pretty). Surgeon said my tube looks bad and he would’ve wanted to take it out as it most likely was damaged already. Well, too late now. 15/12 HCG gone down by 25% to 293, I said I would prefer to NOT to have the (chemo drug) Methotrexate if we can avoid it, so we are on expectant management. 17/12 HCG gone down 34% to 190, next blood test is in a week on 24/12. I don’t know if it helps, but I drink a lot of water and cut out any food with foilate or folic acid for a while. Emotionally (by my surprise) I feel fine, I had no time to get excited about this pregnancy now I am just looking ahead to heal, no point of dwelling on the past.
For Christmas we will be at in-laws and hoping for very nice cosy time. They know what happened, but hopefully I won’t get the pity faces. I also would like to enjoy a glass of wine or something and I do assume it is fine as I am not protecting a pregnancy nor I had Methotrexate. Can I have some alcohol?
Thanks for reading and replying!
Merry Christmas
I asked the Gynae this for my birthday and I had similar hcg to you and she said a couple of drinks was fine for me. Obviously don’t get blotto but yeah thatvwas my advicd
Dear aphroditie,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
I am glad you are planning a cosy Christmas, it is important you take time to look after yourself at this time. As you didn’t have methotrexate, there is no reason why you shouldn’t have a Christmas drink.
We will be here for you for as long as you need.
Sending much love,
Karen x
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Thank you Karen and EctopicPUL,
I will have a glass of wine or Baileys some nights. I’ll have a blood test on the 24th so hopefully I’ll have very low hcg by than. Today I have had a few mild shooting pains, but they gone as quick as they came. But I feel a bit sore kind of behind my hip bone and I also can feel my back just below my kidney (kinda across hip bone). I’m sure it’s nothing to worry about, as I wouldn’t even call it a pain, but I just wondered if it is normal? My discharge nearly stopped, so I guess that’s a good sign, right? Or should I expect some blood/period soon? (25/12 was my period due).
EctopicPUL how long did it take to your hcg to go below level?
Thanks x
I recognise those feelings likeban elastic band in your hip. As things detach and move etc there are pains and I still get a bit of that now.
Mine took forever I was particularly slow 6 weeks from 375 I think at the beginning to discharge at 5.3. Mine went something like 375 48hrs to 245 48hrs to 251 72hrs to 190 5 day gap then back up to 235 to 109 to 73 to 45 to 5.3.
I was particularly stubborn and it took passing the products of conception for me to properly start falling but even then it was slow. Most people are quicker but you do get out of it.
I had stop start bleeding throughout, never very heavy and passed the womb lining 2 weeks before the baby so to speak. Dont be surprised if the bleeding stops and then starts again, it’s natural.
Merry Christmas!
So my HCG was down to 10 yesterday (10 days after + test) from 400! I’m extremely proud and relieved! Best Christmas present! I think I’m out of the rapture danger zone now! I think the ‘no folates’ diet and drinking lots of water helped. Also my period came on the expected day, like nothing happened! I think my body just didn’t get the message to slow down and heal a bit first.
I still have few blood test but I am looking into the next step and how to heal my tube.
I’m scared that this can happen again, but I am stronger now and I have all the faith that my second pregnancy will be better than this!
Stay strong!
X
Wow that’s brilliant!!! Well done!
Thanks! I can’t believe it that I literally had 1 day of pain/bleeding with this (even though I was bleeding inside). Also that my body wouldn’t skip a beat! I am so sorry that most people here suffered so much!
How are you doing EctopicPUL? What’s your next step? Have you thought about your next step? X
I’m having a break! This was an unplanned pregnancy and whilst I didn’t have surgery I had October to December with 48hr bloods that went up and down etc bleeding etc.
I’m going to give myself a couple of months on contraception to have a break. I need to get back into work and resume some normality. I found the protracted nature and constantly being at risk played havoc with my anxiety. I feel good at the moment but still finding it difficult to be in normal stress! Got 2 more weeks off over Xmas. Hoping normality can resume.
The whole experience has been shocking and just added to a feeling of vulnerability. My invicibility has gone lol I found this only kicked in when I was discharged though - continue to take care of yourself bc you may find other emotions come now your physically not at risk.
Managed to have a nice Christmas Day though. I’m now not in pain. Got my Gynae scan on 27th though and will go just to check all is okay.
How was yours??