I lost my pregnancy March 31st, 2019 and have been praying to be pregnant ever since. I want to be a mom more than I want to breathe. It’s so hard. My sister in law is 25 weeks and I just so desperately want to have a baby. We have been TTC since November 2018 and since we haven’t had a successful pregnancy my gynaecologist has referred me to a fertility clinic. My appointment is dec 17th. I want to be able to get pregnant naturally. I guess my question more or less is, how long did it take some of you to get pregnant again after your loss?
Dear paigelansimaki3,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
I very much understand that strong desire to conceive. I appreciate how frustrating it can be if it isn’t happening as quickly as we would like. Conceiving successfully can take time and can take some couples more than a year or so. It is good to hear that you have been referred to specialists.
While generally it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. On average, 65% of women are successfully pregnant within 18 months of experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and some studies suggest this rises to around 85% after two years.
In addition, having regular sex means having sex every 2/3 days throughout the month. Guidance from the UK’s National Institute of Health and Clinical Excellence advises that having sex around the time when the woman ovulates causes stress and is not recommended. We here at the EPT suggest having intercourse 2/3 times between days 10-20 of their cycle when trying to conceive. We also have information on our website on trying to conceive here:
https://ectopic.org.uk/patients/trying-to-conceive/
Sending much love,
Karen x
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