Just wondered if anyone on here has any experience of eggsharing? I had 2 goes of IVF due to PCOS and bad tubes 5/6 years ago with ex hubby but it sadly didnt work and I was only 26 at the time, but the whole thing ended my already rocky marriage.
Im now with a new partner and have been for nearly 4 years, 9 weeks ago i suffered an ectopic and right tube ruptured, so now thats gone and left tube is severely damaged through PID and previous investigations.
Hospital have told me i can start IVF asap…which is a kick in the teeth as we are not able to afford it, so was considering egg sharing. Not just for the cost side of things, but after all i have been through in the last few weeks, its made me realise that my situation could be a whole lot worse! and id love the opportunity to help a woman achieve her dream of having a baby…what an amazing thing to do for someone!
so if anyone has any info, advice or experience good or bad id really like to hear from you as i need to kno the pro’s and con’s from someone who has been through tthe same other than what the clinic tells you
My sister in law did the egg sharing so that she could have ivf, she would recommend it. Not only with being able to have ivf when she couldn’t really afford it, but the thought of helping someone else in a similar fertility lacking situation.
Obviously think long and hard, about how you would feel if you had a blood related offspring, you get told by letter if it’s been successful to them, and of course, your name would be accessable to them when they get to 18. But if your anything like my sister in law, the thought of giving someone else the gift of a child, when you know how much you would love one… It’s something special.
I think I have heard you have to be under 35, and certain requirements, you have to go through various checks including talking to a councillor,
When they got to the insertion time, they did pay for the sperm to be inserted into each egg to help get more successful, then there are huge costs of medical certificates that they had to pay for, but some got done at the gps.
Hope this is helpful, if you have any questions I will happily as my sister in law for you.
Thanks mimis, ive been googling it and different clinics seem to have different requirements, im 32 so age ok, all say bmi 30 and under under 35 some say no genetic conditions others say no PCOS which i do have, so gonna have to pick a clinic and go from there i think
Im not sure if id be happy or a little gutted if it worked for the recipient and not me, i suppose thats something you dont know until the time!? but would love someone to do the same for me if i had no eggs so will carry on investigations thanks alot for the info xx
Good luck with it, I hope it turns out successfully. I think when you talk to the counsellor they will ask you about how you will feel if they are successful and not you… It’s something you should think about.
My sister in law has PCO rather than PCOS its a lesser form of it, I also thought I had pcos until I had fertility tests done and found I have pco too… I think it comes down to hormone levels, it’s meant to be not as severe. Depending on when you got diagnosed at it, might be worth getting some extra tests? I got diagnosed it 14 yrs ago when it was done on a visual form only not looking at the hormone levels.
If you do have any questions, let me know, as I’m sure she will be happy to help.
well i got told about 10 years ago it was pcos was started on metformin but it made me ill so they stopped it and never went on anything else one clinic has replied saying “cannot have untreated pcos” so something ill be seeing docs about and hormone tests i think, thanks for all your help xx
Hi - well here is some perspective from the other side. I am currently undergoing IVF with donated eggs. My first pregnancy 12 weeks ago was also with donated eggs & also resulted in an ep - surgery & my tube lost.
The unusual thing is that my donor is actually an altruistic donor & her eggs have been shared between me & another lady. The clinic recently told me the other lady is currently pregnant.
So I have rather mixed feelings about that - on the one hand I am jealous as hell. On the other hand it’s good to know that the eggs work!! We have 4 embryos frozen & are about to start again with another cycle - if this does work then my child will at least have a half brother/sister in case we can’t have 2 babies.
I don’t know where you are or what clinics you are considering, but I am with CRM and am very happy with them.
