I still can’t believe this happened

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Hello,

So, on the 8th of June I visited my doctors after having a positive pregnancy test and heavy bleeding, after an examination - she said she suspected I had had a miscarriage.

A week later, I decided to take another test as I still had symptoms of pregnancy (nausea, sore boobs, etc) but was still bleeding heavily. Another positive result. So I went to the doctors again where I was referred to the early pregnancy support unit. They took bloods which showed HCG levels of 300, these were then repeated two days later and showed 310 - showing that there was a high chance I was having an ectopic pregnancy. I was asked to come in two days later unless I felt pain or anything out of the ordinary.

However, the next day (day 28 of continuous bleeding), I began to feel uncomfortable so was whipped into the hospital and before I knew it, had consented and been prepped for surgery as a mass had been found in my right Fallopian tube with free fluid in POD.

Due to adhesions around my left Fallopian tube and my body looking slightly damaged from PID - they chose to save both my tubes.

4 days post op and I’m unsure if I’m using painkillers for the pains or to dull the emotions. My partner had to shower me and dress me earlier although I’m sure I could have physically managed, I just didn’t want to.

I did not plan to become pregnant but that did not mean it was an unwanted pregnancy. This is all a little harder today than it seemed to be yesterday.

I have no questions and no aim for this post, I just am not sure where to discuss. I have no friends who understand, my partner is I’m sure fed up of the rollercoaster of emotions and I feel the need to show a brave exterior to my family.

I’m so sorry for all of you who have been through this or are going through this and I hope tomorrow is better for us all

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I am so sorry this is happening. Your experience sounds a lot like my first ectopic. They misdiagnosed with a miscarriage as well. I ended up rupturing and being rushed by ambulance to the ER where I had emergency surgery. They could not save the tube. I now have an ectopic in the other tube!

The grief is real. Don’t try to put on a brave face for your family, let it out, grieve. I went through so many emotions with both ectopics… sadness, grief, ANGER, confusion, uncertainty. It doesn’t help that you’re hormones are probably all out of whack right now too! But it does ease up. It will take several weeks, but the raw painful emotions will scab over. You’ll still fill them off and on… little things will trigger it, but it will get better. hugs

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This is a few years after you last posted, but I just wanted to see how you both ended up? I had an ectopic pregnancy IN July this year on my right fallopian tube. I had follow up scans that have now shown fluid in my left fallopian tube and that the mass from my ectopic is still in my right fallopian tube. I feel so hopeless. I went from being pregnant three months ago to having a possibility of being infertile… I didn’t even know anything was wrong with my tube’s before the ectopic. It is a lot to process and I am struggling…